When Daphne Gordon first tried MDMA, it changed her perspective that illegal drugs were a gamble with her life, which she learned from the 'just say no' campaigns of the '90s. Now a parent in her 50s in Toronto, Gordon reflects on how her drug use, rooted in rave culture, has continued alongside parenting. Along with a network of professional friends, many from the electronic dance music scene, she describes a vibrant 'drug-positive social culture' where drug use often occurs at gatherings and events. Reports highlight a significant number of families, with over 21 million children in the U.S. living with a parent who uses illicit substances, while trends show a rise in the use of drugs such as cannabis and MDMA among adults. With changing perceptions around drugs, some parents are fostering open conversations about substance use with their children, attempting to share healthier views than the traditional abstinence stance. For many, drugs have become a means to cope with the pressures of parenthood, underscoring the complexities around substance use and child-rearing in contemporary society.